I fell into a trap that I didn’t think I would this week, one that Hubs reminded me over.
After dinner one night this week, it’s all a blur now, I asked Peanut if he wanted a bath? ‘No.’ A shower? ‘No.’ So I just got him changed into his PJs and tried to settle him down for the night.
His night time bath/shower is one of his biggest cues that bed time is imminent. After an hour of wailing, he finally got off to sleep and was unsettled overnight.
Hubs gently told me that while Peanut may say ‘No’ to things, it’s because he can and that we need to make decisions for him. It opened my eyes, and made me wonder if that is what causes so many parenting issues around the world. Because instead of us being the adult, making a decision and sticking to it, we ask a child an opinion on something that is non-negotiable?